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He told me to read all his old messages but I'm still worried, afraid of one day he will change. I am 29 years old and have a daughter nearly 3 years old. I live with children, although difficult but still fun. I know your boyfriend when he divorced his wife a year. He should feel the message or confide in me. At that time he had two daughters, in first grade and 10th grade. He lived the affection so that even though his ex-wife betrayed him and led to divorce, he still gave her two times; Take care when she does surgery because she thinks that the mother has no love. However, she still contacted her boyfriend so he decided to cut off. After a few months of stopping to contact me, he texted me, invited my mother to eat and drink coffee. Actually, I did not have much sympathy with him, so only social replies, the reason for refusing. Seeing that I persisted for more than a month, I agreed to meet. He said he wanted to go further and take care of my mother and son. He was very interested in me, no one before me so. Gradually, I also fell in love, but the family protested because I could not care for his two children, afraid of his ex-wife to make it difficult. We are determined to try to get the family to accept the wedding. There was a time when he argued that he was 13 years older than me, not romantically, but in the end they both realized the importance of the enemy. What I am most concerned about is: he and his children and their two brothers live with their parents. If married, my parents and brother can not be with my daughter. They are very young because they did not have three. Also, I'm very awkward, if only live with his parents and children he is, but also his brother, I fear I will not please everyone. I am afraid to bring my daughter home, but will not leave me. He said he would stay alone but I thought his mother would not let her grandchildren stay at home. Actually I'm very hard thinking and do not know how to do it. At this time, his older sister used to text him for forgiveness. He intercepted but occasionally she left messages. He said he was out of love so he could not live together, she cheated on him a lot. He told me to read all the messages but I was still worried, she was the mother of his children anyway, maybe someday he will change? These two problems make me anxious, late. Thanks to the experts and readers help me. Thank you. Psychological counseling Nguyen Ba Dat suggests: Hang Hang, You are in a situation to consider and make a very important decision, not only change your life but also related to your daughter. . You love a man who has a wife. Because he cares so much, you both feel the same, the two also recognize the importance of the enemy. However, sometimes they both argue for him than you are 13 years old. Here are some things you need to clarify. He is not romantic, do you really love him? On a scale of 0 to 10, how do you love him and how much he loves you? If the love of two people from 8 points or more, the common life will have advantages, then because of love you can overcome the difficulties, how to become. The second thing the couple can overcome is the level of satisfaction in having sex. Are you really happy about this? Another factor is commitment and responsibility? This you need more time to observe, because in the past he has actively cut off your contact. In the letter you wrote, "he broke off his relationship with his ex-wife." Cut off what this means, divorce or just separation? Because after the divorce, the two have no ties. Did the time suddenly not contact you, he turned back to his ex-wife? Also what causes his ex-wife to adultery and leave her husband? Every break in marriage is not a fault of a person. Therefore, you should find out and know the reason they can not live together, what is his fault? Will he notice and change in the new marriage? This is very important, the second marriage does not go to the carriage of the first marriage. You and he need to be very careful about living with your husband's family. In a family with many generations living together, brothers and sisters in the same house are hard to avoid conflicts, conflicts and conflicts. In addition, there are children, children, the risk of conflict, conflict is extremely high. Therefore, you consider renting a private home is a feasible solution. However, when a man over 40, never separated from his parents, now renting a home is a challenge for them. Because they have no experience organizing life for their own individual and family. In your situation, consider every option. Of which two people living together but not registered as soon as possible. The time of "cohabitation" helps you to recognize, accurately assess the feelings of two people, forging responsibility and commitment to each other; Deal with financial problems, responsibility with the children separately. After the time you live together, you overcome all challenges, then officially come together not late. Wish you have made the right decision. For psychological counseling consultants, please send a message here. Subscribers call the editor at 02873008899 – ext. 4529 (during office hours). Your sharing will be posted on the Talk page.